Craig Brown | Founder | Stop Hiding Start Healing
Desire is one of the most fundamental aspects of human existence. It shapes our thoughts, motivates our actions, and defines our pursuits. Yet, this powerful force within us can either lead to a fulfilling life or trap us in cycles of self-destruction, depending on how we manage it.
The Apostle Paul provides a profound perspective on desire in Romans 8:5-9 (NIV):
“Those who live according to the flesh have their minds set on what the flesh desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. The mind governed by the flesh is death, but the mind governed by the Spirit is life and peace.”
This passage underscores the crucial choice we face: to focus our desires on selfish gratification or to align them with God’s will. The consequences of our choice are significant—spiritual life and peace or spiritual death and hostility toward God.
The Nature of Desire
Desire is deeply embedded in human nature. From a young age, we learn to identify and act on what we want, whether it’s comfort, pleasure, or success. Healthy desires motivate us to pursue meaningful goals, bringing satisfaction and joy. But when desires go unchecked or are mismanaged, they can spiral into unhealthy patterns, such as addiction.
When Desire Becomes Destructive
Addiction is one of the clearest examples of mismanaged desire. It often begins innocently, as the brain seeks pleasure or relief. Over time, the repeated pursuit of these desires becomes habitual, leading to a decrease in self-control. What started as a means to feel better becomes a trap, entrenched through repetition and the brain’s natural mechanisms.
The good news is that the measurable brain changes caused by addiction can often reverse when people stop the destructive behavior. This underscores the importance of addressing the root cause: unmanaged desire.
The Role of Accountability
One of the most powerful tools for managing desire is accountability. Without it, our unchecked desires can lead us down paths of destruction. Accountability provides:
- Support: A community or individual who can encourage us to stay on track.
- Perspective: Honest feedback about our actions and motivations.
- Guidance: Wisdom to help us align our desires with God’s will.
Aligning Desires with God’s Will
Scripture offers a roadmap for managing our desires. Philippians 2:13 reminds us, “For God is working in you, giving you the desire and the power to do what pleases him.” When we delight in the Lord, as Psalm 37:4 says, He gives us the desires of our hearts. This doesn’t mean we’ll get everything we want, but rather that our desires will align with His purposes, leading to true fulfillment.
Reflect and Act
Consider these questions to help you better manage your desires:
- What is your biggest challenge when trying to manage your desires?
- How does Matthew 6:21 (“Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be”) guide your life choices?
- Why is accountability essential for managing your desires?
Finding Freedom
Desire is not inherently bad. It’s a gift from God meant to motivate and inspire us. However, it requires careful management to avoid falling into patterns of mismanagement, like addiction. By focusing our desires on God and seeking His guidance, we can experience life and peace—the ultimate freedom He offers.
As Psalm 145:19 says, “He fulfills the desires of those who fear him; he hears their cry and saves them.” Let this be a reminder that true satisfaction comes when we surrender our desires to Him and allow His Spirit to guide us.