Craig Brown | Founder | Stop Hiding Start Healing
“Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control.” — Proverbs 25:28
Self-control is an essential principle in recovery and personal growth. Without it, we become like a defenseless city, open to the influences of sin, temptation, and harmful habits. However, developing self-control isn’t about depending solely on our strength; it is a transformative process grounded in spiritual growth and practice. Here’s a closer look at what self-control truly means and how to cultivate it.
1. Living Within Boundaries
Our resistance to boundaries stems from the sinful nature of humanity. We often perceive them as constraints on our freedom. However, boundaries are crucial for a healthy life, especially in recovery.
In biblical times, a city without walls was vulnerable to attacks, just as undisciplined recovery leaves us open to triggers and temptation. Rebuilding walls of self-control helps safeguard us from the destructive forces that can derail our journey to healing.
Ask yourself: What walls do you need to rebuild to protect yourself from harmful influences?
2. Thinking Before Acting
Sin creates noise in our lives, clouding our judgment and drowning out wisdom. In recovery, dealing with urges and cravings is an ongoing battle, often fueled by pride and misplaced desires.
Wisdom helps us pause, seek counsel, and act with intention. Surround yourself with mentors or trusted individuals who can offer guidance and accountability. Remember, thinking before acting is a powerful step in reclaiming control over your actions.
3. Making Self-Control a Habit
Self-control doesn’t happen overnight. It is cultivated through consistent practice and a commitment to growth. By channeling the energy spent on struggles into building self-control, it can eventually become second nature.
Set realistic goals and celebrate progress. Focus on the process, knowing that the discipline you develop today will shape your tomorrow.
4. Self-Control Is Not Self-Dependence
True self-control is not about relying solely on your own strength. While determination is important, excluding God from the process often leads to frustration and burnout.
Self-control is a gift of the Holy Spirit. As Galatians 5:22-23 reminds us, the fruit of the Spirit includes love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, and self-control. By humbling ourselves before God, we invite Him to work through us, transforming our character and fortifying our resolve.
Building a Life of Freedom
Recovery is a journey that requires courage, wisdom, and reliance on God. When we voluntarily submit to the changes God wants to make in our lives, we rebuild the protective walls that shield us from harm. Through prayer, practice, and a heart open to God’s guidance, self-control can become a cornerstone of our healing journey.
Let this truth encourage you today: “Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up.” — James 4:10
If you’re seeking support in your recovery journey, remember that you’re not alone. Wisdom and strength come when we seek God’s help and the counsel of trusted mentors. Keep rebuilding your walls—freedom and healing are within reach.