Craig Brown | Founder | Stop Hiding Start Healing
We all experience pain and shame at some point in life. These emotions, when left unaddressed, can lead to cycles of self-destruction and isolation. In my recent talk at the FCF Men’s Breakfast, I shared insights into breaking free from these cycles and stepping into healing, hope, and restoration.
The Roots of Shame and Pain
Shame is deeply intertwined with pain and guilt. As illustrated in Genesis 3, the story of Adam and Eve highlights humanity’s first encounter with shame—a powerful emotion that emerged after disobedience. Shame often drives us to hide, medicate, or escape, whether through addiction, unhealthy relationships, or other destructive habits. These patterns lead to further pain and guilt, perpetuating a cycle of isolation.
The Connection Between Shame, Trauma, and Addiction
Scientific research supports what many of us have experienced: the pain of core shame stimulates the same brain regions as physical pain and fear. This is why trauma and shame are so closely linked. To cope, people may turn to temporary fixes like drugs, alcohol, or pornography. While these provide momentary relief, they compound the problem by deepening the pain and guilt.
God’s Purpose in Pain
Though God does not cause our pain, He can use it for good. Scripture reminds us of this truth:
- James 1:2-4 encourages us to see trials as opportunities for growth.
- 1 Peter 4:12 reminds us not to be surprised by suffering.
Pain, when embraced as part of the process, can lead us toward healing and transformation.
Breaking the Cycle: Steps to Healing
To escape the destructive cycle of shame and pain, we must:
- Face the Pain: Acknowledge the hurt, guilt, and shame without minimizing or denying it. As Jeremiah 6:14 warns, “You can’t heal a wound by saying it’s not there.”
- Build a Support Network: Surround yourself with safe, trustworthy people—pastors, counselors, and peers in faith-based recovery.
- Engage in Self-Reflection:
- Conduct a daily inventory of your mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual health.
- Journal honestly to uncover and process hidden pain.
- Shift Your Mindset: Stop negative self-talk by replacing it with God’s Word. Focus on what you have rather than what you lack, embracing an abundance mindset.
- Develop Spiritual Disciplines:
- Create a prayer team where you can be transparent.
- Reconnect with God’s Word to recalibrate your soul.
The Ultimate Healer
True healing comes from God. He restores our souls (Psalm 23:3) and lifts the burden of shame (Zephaniah 3:18). Only by surrendering to Him can we break free from the cycles of addiction, pain, and guilt.
If you’re struggling, it’s time to come out of hiding. Take the first step toward healing. Surround yourself with support, confront the past, and trust God to restore and renew your soul.
Resources for Your Journey
Visit StopHidingStartHealing.org to learn more and explore my book, available on Amazon. Let’s journey together toward healing and freedom.
Are you ready to stop hiding and start healing? Share your story or leave a comment below!